There exist four different parenting styles: the authoritarian style, the authoritative style, the permissive style as well as the uninvolved style. These styles have been discovered throughout the past decades and are still subjects of current research. A famous scientist, by the name of Diana Baumrind, in the field discovered the first thee styles. Her discoveries were later picked up and detailed research was conducted to discovered the last style known as the uninvolved style.
Diana Baumrind conducted an experiment on one hundred preschool-age children using naturalistic observation, parental interviews and many other research methods. She was able to define four major dimensions of parenting: disciplinary strategies, warmth and nurturance, communication styles and expectations of maturity and control. Her conclusion was that based on how children are raised different traits are more or less dominant in their figure. As previously mentioned, Diana was able to classify different parenting styles into three different ones: authoritarian parenting style, authoritative parenting style and the permissive parenting style.
1. All about discipline: According to my latest research, there are millions of books, pamphlets and articles on the subject of child discipline. There are lots of books and articles out there on this particular topic (discipline) with kinds of name, such as “Behavior Modification”, “Ways to Discipline a Child”, “All About Parenting” or some approach that says, “This Is the Best Way to Discipline Your Child”. That’s why this article is different from any other and I enthusiastically recommend it to every parent.
2. Understand what discipline is?: Understanding the true nature of discipline. I ask, what is discipline? Discipline is teaching, it’s the process of teaching that goes on all the time. When we discipline our child parenting, we are teaching them two things that I want you to understand well, (i) To avoid undesirable behavior and (ii) To use desirable behavior, these are the two things, and very few people see this clearly. Agree with me that discipline is teaching? Yes it is. I will this medium to tell you that in discipline it is wrong to use one
Children don’t come with instruction manuals and parenting doesn’t come with a manual or an infallible guide. Every situation and family is unique. We as individuals are different. There are different parenting styles and variations. To provide training and education that is universal, it has to be based on fundamentals which make us all similar. This would be human psychology, human behavior, and decades of scientific research and studies. Without training or education, we parent with instinct and our personal experiences. Maybe what we learned (consciously and subconsciously) from our parents, family members or others. We parent around our beliefs, morals, and values. Even with training and education in parenting, we need to be naturally adaptive, resourceful, and improvisational. Proper parenting training and education provides a foundation of knowledge which we can build off of, making it easier and more efficient to use our parenting style instincts and skills.
Parenting is something that cannot be perfected. We can be passionate about it and do the best possible job that we can. It is the most fruitful investment because it is for the benefit of our children and our
Here are some common questions that parenting experts get asked frequently.
Is “Because I Said So” Enough?
Parents may say, “No means no.” Or, “Because I said so, that’s why.” You’ve certainly heard other parents say these things, and you may even have said them yourself. Well, in part they’re true and should be enough of a reason for not doing something, but using these phrases really doesn’t teach your toddler anything.
Remember, you are attempting to teach the concept of appropriate behaviour.
A short, simple explanation is fine. Say “You cannot climb on the kitchen counter because you may fall onto the hard tiled floor.” If your toddler repeats “Why?” over and over again, answer the first couple of times with the very same explanation. If he is trying to get you to change your mind and your story, he’ll quickly realize it isn’t working. After that, refuse to answer his “whys” by ignoring him.
What’s Wrong with Bribing?
The problem with bargaining is that once you start it, your toddler expects
If your children behave badly such as fighting, lying, stealing, lazy to do some homework, denied, or interrupted when the parents are called you would feel disappointed. That attitude which the child has done was perfectly natural course. But do not take it so long, you should take appropriate action. The problem is what are the appropriate action should we take? Here I will show you some techniques you have to know about parenting technique to change the bad behavior of your children.
In order to coping with the bad behavior is not easy. It needs more attention and seriousness of the parents. The first thing you can try is that make a clear instructions and giving the child a reason why you told him like that. For example when you prohibit them do not jump on the bed. Just try to give an explanation if they jump on the bed causes damaged and so on. That way; children will understand why you are prohibiting them like that.
Of course, your positive attitude means lots in the process of educating children. So that respects the child and provides support when
Many couples get along famously in their courtship and early marriage, but suddenly find themselves hitting a brick wall when a child is born. As it turns out they did have at least one area where there are major disagreements, and that’s in parenting. And it can be devastating.
All of us have very deep parenting beliefs about how children should be raised. For example, some believe that children need lots of discipline, control and discipline and others that children need to learn from experimentation and self-regulation.
Where Do Our Parenting Beliefs Come From?
We form our beliefs about parenting based on many influences, including the model of our parents, religious messages, observations of others, the media and our own private conclusions.
“The Truth” About Parenting and Children
By the time we are adults we have built a strong set of beliefs about parenting and children. It is usually so strong that it seems like The Truth, the one and only Truth. It just feels like the “natural way to think.”
Then Along Comes Mary, or Joe
It is very common that parents would sick for parenting skills after child’s aggressive behaviors or anger outbursts at school. Parents may also experience being involved with a court system if school officials would decide that lack of parenting skills takes place in particular situation. Parents would come to see a behavior specialist and first questions are usually: “Why me? Why I am forced to learn about parenting skills? I raised my children all by myself, nobody helped me! Or I believe I am a great parent and if school has problems with my child they have to change a teacher or principal has to “fix” it or maybe school counselor does not do her job!”
These questions come up very often and behavior specialist has to work hard to gently and respectfully explain parent that it is not possible to blame school and school officials if your child can not follow simple rules. These rules, actually, seem to be simple for us but not so simple for a child who has been bullied and has to demonstrate self-control.
In most situations something definitely triggers child’s behavior at school it
I grew up a dog lover and have owned several of dogs over the years. My favorite was an adorable Cocker Spaniel named Agatha. I never really liked cats – a little too aloof and independent for my likes.
Yet now going on three years, I’ve been the owner of two tabbies a brother and sister – one gray and one ginger. Since adopting them, I’ve found them fascinating and exotic animals to watch and engage with. And yes, I love my tabbies.
Here are some of the things my cats have taught me about parenting
Forgiveness. Cats have short memories and don’t hold grudges. I’ve seen my tabbies get in some angry hissing, growling and pawing brawls yet a few minutes later they’re cuddled together in their bed. If only we could learn to forgive so quickly.
In humans, chronic anger has been linked to a decline in lung function. A forgiving nature helps to lower blood pressure and reduce anxiety. People who also forgive tend to have higher self-esteem.
Practicing forgiveness helps us more than the offending person. Forgiveness is a life skill we want to model for our children so they can practice it in their own lives.
Communication. Cats are skilled communicators.
Any child is perceived as a blessing to the parent. Whether boy, girl, disabled or healthy, it is important for the child to receive the parents’ attention and to have the essential needs met. However, some parents are not able to provide most of the basic needs due to ignorance, financial problems or even out of lack of interest in taking care of the child. This may be a predicament facing many children with disabilities all over the world. There have been many cases of neglect, malicious punishments or even murder by parents whose children have special needs.
One thing people need to realize about parenting is that the child’s mind is developing and the situations he is exposed to will have a great impact in future. As a result, it is important to treat this child with special needs just like the others in the house. This will give the child the urge to live and accomplish goals he sets in life. This may not happen if the child is segregated. For instance, if the other children want to watch a movie or to hang out, it would be wrong to lock
When I was younger I though that parenting was the funnest, coolest and easiest thing to do. After all, I could take care of babies and make them stop crying and be happy. And once they get older you just hang out with them, right? Those thoughts were obviously before I had children. As I look back at my ignorance I laugh at myself. I am going to explain 3 hard core absolute truths about parenting.
1. It’s exhausting! And the reason why it is exhausting is because you will put the most effort into your children than you do any other thing. At the end of the day sometimes we are so exhausted we barely have enough energy to smile at one another. But the Time is now, the time is now that we instill everything that we have into our children so they become the rock stars that they are. By giving emotionally, physically, mentally, financially and spiritually. By giving and giving your everything to your children it can wipe you out. On the other hand, it is the most rewarding position on planet earth. As parents, we are raising the
In many marriages the relationship in early years is more productive than after some years of marriage. Disagreement is a problem that can result in divorce if not properly handled. In any union, there are always strong points you see in the other person and their weak points. It is the duty of the couples to rise above their differences and make things work, by addressing those concerns. Perfection does not exist in marriage. The things that make marriage work are commitment, love, discipline, understanding, openness and communication.
When it comes to parenting, there are many versions couples use. Some couples want to raise their kids the way they were raised, while others want to raise them the way they expected to be raised by their parents. The bottom-line is that this is a learning experience and partners should learn together. This can only happen where honesty and openness exists. Sit down with one another and agree on the parenting model to be used.
There are deep parenting beliefs that exist among couples on how best to bring up their kids. Some believe discipline should take center stage, hence the
I became a parent in 1993 when my daughter was born. Since then I became a parent two more times -once through adoption. My oldest child is just about to hit her teen years, so I have a lot of experience parenting children from the time they are born to the time they are teenagers. What follows are the most important things I learned about parenting since becoming a parent in 1993.
1) Cherish Every Moment With Your Children
I know this sounds like a cliche, but it’s the most important thing I can tell new parents. The time with your children goes so fast that it’s hard to describe. One day your kids want you to walk them into their classroom, and the next day they want you to drop them off a block away from the school so that their friends don’t see them coming to school with their parents. I’m very lucky that all my kids still love to do things with me. Being with them is the happiest times of my life.
2) Have Fun With You Kids
Parental custody is the term used to describe the rights and responsibilities that parents have toward their children. It means that the parents provide for the physical, emotional, and mental needs of their children. When parents divorce, they need to figure out a way to continue providing the same level of care for the children while the parents aren’t together. Here are some common child custody questions about parental custody to help parents get started.
1. What parent should the child live with? This is the first custody question that the parents must address. There are many factors that should be taken into account to decide the answer. The parents should think about who the primary caregiver has been for the children, if either parent is staying in the house the children grew up in, if one of the parents has moved out of the school district or home town of the child, if there are relationships with step brothers and sisters that are important for the child to maintain, etc. Basically, the parents should try to keep consistency and stability in the child’s life. The child’s circumstances should be as close as
Making excellence in parenting requires some basic knowledge and skills in the field of parenting. Having a good qualitative standard in parenting demands special skill and ability to nurture people from childhood to adulthood where they can be a replica of your true identity as a parent and makes you a role model.
Good viable parents do not fall from heaven, neither were they taken to a special school of study in parenting, but they are the individuals that took their time to build their homes and the lives of their children. They are the people that understand the principles of parenting and work towards it earnestly and accordingly, against all odds.
Parenting is not just an act of giving birth and raising children, but an art of ensuring that those kids become responsible in the society and fulfil their purpose in life.
In our society today, we have fathers and mothers whose major responsibilities is to give birth and ask God or Government to care for their children. So also, we have single fathers and mothers, dormant fathers or non-residential fathers and irresponsible mothers. These set
Parenting twins provides twice the joy and fun but also, twice the challenge. It is perfectly normal for parents to feel a little overwhelmed when first bringing twins home from the hospital but with a few tips, they can quickly learn to manage this new situation like a pro. If you are expecting twins or recently gave birth to twins, we believe the information provided in this article will make it easier having twins in the home.
Of course, just as it takes time to learn about parenting babies for the mother, the father of twins also needs to learn what does and does not work. Just remember, while being parents of twins is more difficult and it requires more time and effort, the rewards cannot be measured. It simply takes patience to learn the personalities of your children and finding techniques of parenting that work best for your situation.
Remember, even if you gain insight from this information and you read some of the best books sold today, because every child and parent is unique, parenting twins is something that involves learning. As a part of learning come mistakes
What is Your Parenting Style?
In our respective roles as counselors for both children and parents in private practice, we have found that a parent’s style of parenting strongly contributes to their child’s well-being, resiliency and over-all behavior. A style of parenting that provides love and support coupled with discipline and structure has been shown to be a reliable indicator of raising children that are happy and confident. In addition, we have found that a parent’s approach to discipline, level of warmth and nurturing, communication, level of control over the children, and the parent’s expectations with respect to maturity level are contributing factors in their child’s behavior and functioning.
In a series of studies conducted in the 1960s, clinical and developmental psychologist, Diana Baumrind, identified the four basic parental behavior components of responsiveness, unresponsiveness, demanding and undemanding, which she combined to create three principal parenting styles. Maccoby & Martin later identified a fourth parenting style, which is distinguished by neglectful or uninvolved parenting. In our private practice, we commonly see parents who parent using these four primary parenting styles. We ask you to ask yourself: “Which parenting style are you?”
Whether we are soon to be parents, new parents or have been parents, we want to do the best job possible at raising our children. Children don’t come with instruction manuals and parenting doesn’t come with a manual or infallible guide. Every situation and family is unique. We as individuals are different. There are different parenting styles and variations. There is varied parenting education and knowledge which we utilize and process differently. We basically parent with instinct, knowledge and wisdom. At first, we usually parent with instinct and our personal experiences. This is usually what we learned (consciously and subconsciously) from our parents, family members or others. We also parent around our beliefs, morals and values. Many new parents and even seasoned parents undergo parenting training and education. This knowledge is a very valuable tool, as it teaches parents how to be effective parents and helps them cultivate their parenting skills. Parenting is a very extensive subject with a vast abundance of information and opinions. Even with proper parenting education, we need to be naturally adaptive, resourceful and I provisional. Good parenting will produce good individuals, who will continue a positive cycle when they are parents.
“Do I have to go?” All parents hear this from their kids about not wanting to go somewhere from time to time. But during and after divorce, hearing this from your kids about spending time with the other parent causes concern for both parents.
In conflictual divorces kids learn that the gap in parental expectations may widen. At some point, the child either aligns with the parent that holds the most power, or will find power in protecting a parent. With one parent the kids learned how to behave and with the other parent they learn how to behave. Sometimes these expectations clash.
There are endless reasons to resist visitation that kids learn are effective. Maybe one will act “insulted” that he has to visit. Or maybe another will complain that “It’s boring.” The parent hearing these complaints may sympathize with their child, which reinforces the refusal. For sure, parents do not want their kids to not like them. It would be easier to think of excuses for not having to go, or provide a number of suggestions for dealing with how hard it is to be over at the
Educating parents has been developing over the last couple of decades. In many places in the world, today, there is a widespread intensive effort to support parents through educational programs. It is not only the government or society that has given impetus to this movement but parents themselves.
There is so much material available on parent education; for starters you can find material on the internet, at your library, even CD’s and DVD’s. There are also several parenting programs available, many of them are voluntary staffed or agencies being funded by government.
Many recent changes have been made in the last few decades in parent education; one of the best changes has been the recognition of the family rather than the individual child as the main concern. The courses now view parents as individuals and not only tools to mind children or for them to polish their skills. They recognize parents as people also having problems within relationships.
Parent education aims at educating parents both rich and poor on the best ways to raise a child. In fact the parent education movement especially aims at making the best of information
Although most parents would agree that their children are more important than their job, most usually get more on-the-job training than they do as a parent. As a Mother of seven once said, “The love is instinctual but the skills are not.”
A NATIONAL MOVEMENT
A 1990 study by fifteen of the nation’s largest youth organizations found that the United States has done poorly in solving the problems affecting today’s youth. There was broad agreement that the number-one solution to these problems was . . . better parents. As a result of their findings, the final report calls for a massive increase in parent education.
President Bush then released a statement of six national goals for education. The number-one goal states that “by the year 2000, all children in America will start school ready to learn.” To attain this goal “parents will have access to the training and support they need.”
President Bush’s comments represent a movement in thinking which places more value on the importance of a parent’s role in preparing children for school and life. It is encouraging to see that there is a