Parenting twins provides twice the joy and fun but also, twice the challenge. It is perfectly normal for parents to feel a little overwhelmed when first bringing twins home from the hospital but with a few tips, they can quickly learn to manage this new situation like a pro. If you are expecting twins or recently gave birth to twins, we believe the information provided in this article will make it easier having twins in the home.
Of course, just as it takes time to learn about parenting babies for the mother, the father of twins also needs to learn what does and does not work. Just remember, while being parents of twins is more difficult and it requires more time and effort, the rewards cannot be measured. It simply takes patience to learn the personalities of your children and finding techniques of parenting that work best for your situation.
Remember, even if you gain insight from this information and you read some of the best books sold today, because every child and parent is unique, parenting twins is something that involves learning. As a part of learning come mistakes and while no parent wants to do something wrong, it happens. As long as the twins are being loved, protected, fed, and dressed appropriately, some of what you learn, as parents of twins will come through trial and error.
Now, in saying that, one of the first things we wanted to share when having twins is that you want to recognize and appreciate the differences between the two children. As they age and you are now parenting twin toddlers, you will see unique personalities emerge. Unfortunately, many people think that even the closest of twins share the same opinions, like the same foods, and enjoy the same things and while the babies will have a special bond they are also two individual people.
Additionally, when parenting babies, whether they are identical or fraternal twins, you should never turn down help. For the first six months or so, you will have little sleep, especially if the twins end up on different schedules. Therefore, if you have close family members and friends offering to help wash clothes, make meals, prepare bottles, and even give you and your spouse a break during the day, accept it with grace.
Accepting help when having twins is not a sign of failure but a sign of being smart. After all, you want to be the best parent you can be and if you are tired and grumpy all the time, then you are missing your goal. By having someone watch the twins for a few hours during the day so you can sleep will help you be better parents of twins than if trying to do everything on your own.
It is also critical that you as parents of twins not forget about YOU! The number one problem when having twins is stress. Without much sleep and finding the financial situation has changed, it is easy to feel completely overwhelmed. Therefore, when you have help come into the home, take time to go for a walk, get a massage, or the two of you go to a movie. It is always hard for parents of twins to do this but it is essential and when the time comes that you are parenting twin toddlers, you will be glad you took opportunities to enjoy life along the way.